Owning Our Sh*t: Taking Responsibility for Our Lives

Hello Possibility Seekers! Monique here, back with another insight to help you on your journey to creating a life you love. Today, I want to dive into a topic that is crucial for personal growth and healthy relationships: owning our sh*t. Now, I know the term might raise some eyebrows, but it’s a powerful way to convey the importance of taking responsibility for our lives, our actions, and our outcomes.

Taking Responsibility for Our Actions and Outcomes

Recently, we had a little snafu at the firm – a miscommunication that turned into a heated moment. It got me thinking about how quick we are to blame others when things go wrong. But here’s the reality: miscommunications and conflicts are rarely one-way streets. They involve more than one person, and we all have a part to play. So, what does it mean to “own our sh*t”? It means recognizing our role in any given situation, acknowledging our mistakes, and taking steps to rectify them.

Controlling Our Responses: De-escalating Conflicts

When things go sideways, we have a choice: we can either blame others or we can control our response. Owning it means taking your power back. Instead of escalating a conflict, we can choose to de-escalate. This might involve apologizing for our part in a miscommunication or deciding not to react impulsively. For instance, if you’re in an argument with your spouse, instead of matching their raised voice, you can say, “I don’t think you’re being your best self with me right now,” and stop the conversation before it gets worse.

No Regrets: Resolving Conflicts and Building Relationships

Another aspect of owning our sh*t is resolving conflicts in a way that leaves no room for regret. In my book, I mention Bonnie Ware, the hospice nurse who wrote a book about the five regrets of the dying – a few are not allowing themselves to be happy or not spending more time with loved ones. Holding onto grudges or unresolved conflicts can lead to lifelong regrets. If you’ve made a mess, clean it up. Talk to that family member or friend you’ve had a falling out with. Own your part, apologize, and move forward.

Owning the Positives and Negatives: Taking Ownership

Lastly, it’s essential to own both the positives and negatives in our lives. When we make mistakes, we need to acknowledge them, apologize, and set new expectations to avoid repeating them. Conversely, we should also own our successes and positive contributions. Recognize and celebrate your achievements, and use them as a foundation to build further success.